Should my children have copies of my estate planning records?
I would recommend that it is not necessary for children to have a copy of your estate planning records.
Children can be 65 or 8 years old. If children are under 18 then they definitely do not need these documents.
Do I give a copy to my trustee?
No, these people do not need to know these legally before you die. They do not have to accept this or be okay with it. If you are unsure about whether they are going to accept this role, you should definitely run it by them. This does not mean you need to give them a copy of your documents.